How to Discuss Divorce with Your Children

 Posted on October 29, 2013 in Family Law

Divorce is a scary and stressful situation to deal with. For parents, the stress of divorce can be much more intense than for childless couples. One of the trickiest tasks of a parent going through a divorce is sitting down and breaking the news to the kids. However, this task can be more bearable if you do your research beforehand and follow a few simple steps.

One of the most important factors to consider when planning your talk with your children is to make sure that you and your spouse will do it together. You want to present a united front so as to convey to your children that they still have a family, although it may be different. It might be challenging, but it will be better for your children in the long run.

When it comes to what you will actually tell your children, there are a few different things to take into account. First, you want to be sure to stick to the truth. That being said, this does not mean that you need to give them all of your reasons in complete detail. It’s best for you and your spouse to agree on one simple and honest reason to tell them, such as, “We can’t get along anymore.” The amount of detail depends on your children's ages, as do the types of questions they will ask you.

During all the stresses and concerns you may deal with during your divorce, it is important not to forget about the needs of your children. When you sit down to talk with them, remember to reassure them that just because Mommy and Daddy are separating, it does not mean you will stop loving them. Reassure them that both you and your spouse will continue to be there for them and love them no matter what happens. Let them know that although things will change, everything will be okay in the end.

If you are a parent going through a divorce, be sure to contact an Illinois divorce attorney to assist you in preparing for giving “the divorce talk” as best as you can.