Don’t Let Guilt over Divorce Financially Break You

 Posted on December 19, 2013 in Family Law

When a marriage does not work out, the partner that is leaving the marriage is not always the bad guy, but he or she may feel like they are. This is more common among men according to a report by the The Huffington Post. Desperation and guilt often make the person initiating the divorce to either delay the divorce or agree to a settlement that is not financially smart; sometimes both.

One scenario to consider is when the wife has been the homemaker and stays home to take care of the children. The husband may continue to stay in the marriage because he has a young child and the wife doesn’t work. He feels on obligation to stay so that he can continue to provide for his family.

This reasoning actually has the opposite effect. Things like child support and alimony are meant to provide for the family. The wife will also have an easier time of reentering the workforce if she is not out of it for so long. Sometimes the discussion of divorce is enough to kick someone out of the comfort zone and back into gear to save the marriage.

Another scenario is the husband who decides that he is going to file divorce. He feels so badly for hurting his wife that he agrees to let her keep all of the assets such as the house and the car. He also agrees to pay a monetary settlement that she suggests. This is also highly inadvisable.

Going through a divorce is a highly emotional experience. That is exactly why you need to have an experienced DuPage County divorce attorney there to advise you in a practical manner. Your attorney will negotiate with your spouse's legal counsel in order to ensure that the best interest of all involved parties is protected.