Marriage is a lot of give and take. Many times one feels like they are giving more than they are receiving. As much as it can happen on a regular basis, some relationships are so warped on the giving and taking scale, that it can demise the marriage as a whole
When partners stop being partners, problems will arise. Issues can range from irresponsibility, immaturity, and trust issues to selfishness. When someone feels they are the center of the relationship rather than the two being equal, it causes pain. Worse yet, if there is domestic abuse, the one half of the couple is in danger as long as they remain in the relationship. Marriage counseling can help some couples, however, both parties need to be open to it.
A marriage is about satisfying both people. When problems arise and are not resolved, resentment carries over and over. Complaining, blaming and not being able to solve problems truly can destroy a relationship. No one wants to live in resentment. Fighting over little things is not necessary. When one believes they are right at all times, the other can be put on the defense easily. A couple needs to work on compromise and talking through things rather than focusing on who is right. If one is narcissistic and just refuses to empathize and support the other it will hurt the other. Lastly, addiction truly does kill marriages. Focus is all about the addiction and not the relationship
Problems cannot be put to rest and solved without a neutral perspective. All couples see their side and will fight for their individual point of view. If you have tried everything and your partner still does not see eye to eye with you and want to work things out, contact a DuPage divorce attorney who will go over with you how to move forward.
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