Uncomplicating the Divorce Process: Tips for Managing a Smart Divorce

 Posted on September 03, 2015 in Family Law

Divorce is complicated. No doubt the process will evoke a wide array of emotions from pre-divorce to post-divorce status but Deborah Moskovitch, founder of The Smart Divorce website has invaluable advice for the estimated 40 to 50 percent of Americans facing divorce this year.

Moskovitch, a divorce consultant, urges those facing divorce to adopt and maintain a healthy attitude to achieve success by maintaining personal control over the situation.

By managing divorce it is plausible to execute a smart divorce and move onto a better life but it will take commitment and hard work. The following are Moskovitch’s tips for emotionally handling a divorce while a qualified divorce attorney handles the legalities.

Making Smart Decisions

A good first step is immersing yourself in the divorce process. First step, interview a qualified divorce attorney and do not be afraid to ask the tough questions. Research all areas that may be involved in your personal situation such as negotiation, arbitration or mediation. Keep emotions in check and try to view the process as a business transaction.

Managing Your Emotions

As common as divorce remains, sometimes the emotional experience can be overwhelming. Face the issues head on and be open to understanding that grief and a wide range of other emotions should be expected. This is quite normal. Establishing a strong support network and remembering that time heals all wounds, may better manage these surfacing emotions throughout the process.

Developing Coping Strategies

Often the wounded spouse may declare “war” on the exciting spouse but by realigning this strategy and placing yourself in the position of wanting no more than the minimum, your frustration level will be greatly reduced as you gain control of your decisions and your life.

Making Future Plans

Divorce can be an opportunity to explore and make personal choices on how your post-divorce life will take shape. Moskovitch suggests a bit of healthy day-dreaming on how you want to define the next chapter. By setting attainable goals, you can create a satisfying post-divorce life.

Expanding Your Horizons

Even if accepting the majority of responsibility of children involved, time spent apart should be time well spent. Take the time to nurture your personal aspirations. Take an adult time out and visit the gym or meet up with a friend or see a movie. Surviving a divorce is difficult but having fun, post-divorce is not a crime.

At the Law Office of Martoccio & Martoccio our qualified Hinsdale divorce attorneys understand that the divorce process can be challenging. Our attorneys are skilled negotiators and litigators and will work smart to ensure your legal rights are protected. Contact our offices to schedule your free initial consultation today.

Sources:

http://www.apa.org/topics/divorce/

http://thesmartdivorce.com/