It is estimated that every year, over two million American couples wed. It is a happy yet hectic time as two people prepare to express their love for each other before family and friends. Vowing to work through life’s trials and tribulations in unison but, once married, is there a danger of losing one’s individuality?
Recently, The Huffington Post explored this question and how it may relate more to women than it does to the man of the house. Lindsay Detwiler, writer, high school English teacher, and wife, acknowledges there is often an assumption that when married, a woman silently accepts the back seat to her husband and is proud to do so as a wife.
Although this scenario may not be the norm, marriage can lessen a woman’s sense of self. They may be consumed with “wifely duties," place personal aspirations on the back burner, or bow to the social stereotypes often associated with marriage and, often later, divorce.
Detwiler urges all women in a committed relationship to find a balance, pointing out that although it may not be easy, it is possible.
Jenni Bevill, writer, life coach for women, mother, and contributor to The Huffington Post, believes that if readers answer yes to one or more of the following questions and statements, they may be already struggling to find that true balance.
If you are a member of the “lost girls” club, Bevill encourages women to wake up every morning and simply ask themselves what do I want and need today? Although this simple advice may prompt many women to alter their thought process, for many the situation may have become intolerable. If you are considering the dissolution of your marriage, the experienced Hinsdale divorce attorneys of Martoccio & Martoccio are available to listen and offer sound legal advice. Contact our office today to schedule your initial consultation.
Sources:
http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/marriage-divorce.htm
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/to-women-marriage-does-not-have-to-destroy-your-identity_us_57961fcee4b0e002a313beb4
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jenni-bevill/five-signs-that-youve-los_b_8271000.html