Being Bitter Is Not the Answer

MelissaA feature article in the Chicago Tribune takes a look at the psychological toll you can cause on relationships by being angry and bitter. Especially in today’s world of social media, it’s easy to observe and analyze what your partner is doing—and it’s also easy to break up without ever needing to see your significant other face-to-face.

With so much personal information available to peruse freely, many times the person doesn't believe themselves to be bitter. They may have experienced a cheating ex, or professional disappointments, and the pain from these events causes their future relationships to be jeopardized by subconscious sabotage.

One part of bitterness can come from having too many serious relationships before settling into a marriage. If a person has his or her heart broken too many times, they can become apathetic about the whole idea of romance and marriage.

People can try to change their views, however. If they ask themselves why they’re acting the way that they are, and ask their partner to help them, they may be able to overcome their struggle and have a healthy relationship. One psychiatrist gives the example: "Let's say someone gets a divorce. If they get serious with a new partner, they may want to say, 'I wouldn't want to lay these old feelings on you, but I might, and I'm sorry if I hit you with my old stuff. Anytime we start heading down that road, let's sit down and talk about it.'”

Unfortunately, sometimes married couples will have irreconcilable differences and file for divorce. If your marriage isn’t working for you, contact our divorce firm in DuPage County to speak with a qualified attorney.

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