Co-Parenting Tips When You and Your Ex Do Not Get Along

Illinois family lawyerDivorce can become very difficult when you have to co-parent with your ex who you do not get along with. Fortunately, there are ways that you can make co-parenting easier and become a great role model to your children. Here are five co-parenting tips you should keep in mind to make parenting a pleasant rather than daunting experience:

  1. Lower Your Expectations

You cannot expect your ex to be the kind of parent you would like them to be. Doing so will only leave you disappointed and frustrated. Keep in mind that even if you believe they should be a better parent, you cannot control their parenting style and/or change their priorities.

2. Try to Have a Cordial Relationship with Your Ex

Although it is easier said than done, having a cordial relationship with your ex can set a good example for your children and make co-parenting a bit more manageable. If necessary, consider seeing a mental health counselor to learn strategies on how to create a cordial relationship with someone who you are not particularly fond of.

3. Respect Your Ex’s Time with Your Children

When you have your children, you want to make the most out of your time together. Allow your ex to do the same when they are with your children. Avoid scheduling activities with your children during your ex’s time with them without asking them if it is okay first. Also, do not call or text too frequently when your children are with your ex.

4. Talk Directly to Your Ex

Do not communicate with your ex through your children. If you need to speak to them, do so directly. In the event you cannot have a civil conversation with them in person, try texting, emailing, or using a co-parenting app like Family Wizard.

5. Practice Empathy

You should do your best to practice empathy towards your children. Before you take any actions, ask yourself how your children will perceive them. By putting yourself in your children’s shoes, you will be able to make smart co-parenting decisions that will make the divorce easier on them.

Contact a DuPage County Divorce Attorney

You do not have to become best friends with your ex. You do, however, need to work with them to provide your children with a healthy environment and happy, fulfilling life. If you need support with co-parenting, do not hesitate to reach out to our Hinsdale divorce attorneys today at 630-920-8855.


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