The Divorce Selfie: The Photogenic “Feel Good” Trend of Today’s Divorce

Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family law attorneyFirst comes love, then comes marriage, but for 3.6 percent of all 1,000 marriages in the United States, then comes divorce. Forgotten are the memories of wedding preparation and hopeful bliss as many couples strive to reach marital milestones but fall short. One unfortunate aspect of the divorce epidemic in the U.S. is for those couples who threw caution to the wind and spent upwards to $30,000 to commemorate their special day, never imagining that divorce would ever grace their front door.

In hindsight, there was the venue, the caterer, the musicians, the dress, the cake and of course the photographer who was hired to catch every breathtaking and memorable moment. One of the most expensive of expenditures, the wedding photographer is estimated to consume 10 to 15 percent of the total wedding budget as prices range anywhere from $2,500 to $10,000.

Just as couples planned for their wedding day, experts believe it is advisable to also plan for an impending divorce as the average cost of dissolving a marriage in the U.S. today can run the gambit of anywhere from $1,500 to $15,000, photographer excluded, but perhaps not entirely.

A new trend is emerging as “divorce selfies” are being posted to Facebook and other social media platforms as couples are digitally capturing the finality of their marriages.

In a recent New York Post article, New York therapist and relationship expert, Rachel Sussman, believes that although the concept may seem somewhat strange, the divorce selfie is actually therapeutic. Sussman believes this may indicate a movement toward more amicable divorces as a statement of acknowledgment that although the marriage is over, ex-spouses do not have to hold animosity towards one another.

Although Sussman believes this may be a socially acceptable way to start anew, she does warn that a picture is worth a thousand words as many who have reached the divorce selfie threshold have dealt with the underlying waves of pain and anger felt by most couples facing the end of a marriage.

When divorce selfies pop up on social media they often post with a heartfelt caption.

Some couples pay tribute to their children and declare their dedication to co-parenting or a thank you to their ex-spouse for the time invested in the marriage. One highly publicized divorce selfie caption read, “we smile not because it is over, but because it happened.”

But not everyone is on board with the emerging trend and refer to it as the end of love as we know it. As many herald the divorce selfie, many are taking to social media to shame a couple for celebrating divorce and not the sanctuary of marriage.

No matter which side of the fence you may find yourself on, perhaps we can agree to disagree. Divorce is never easy but perhaps catching a moment in time can be revered as an expression of hope with the belief that everything is going to be fine, maybe not today, but someday soon.

If you and your spouse are agreeable to an uncontested divorce, the seasoned Hinsdale divorce attorneys of Martoccio & Martoccio fully understand your desire to dissolve the marriage as quickly and efficiently as possible. We will assist by preparing and filing the necessary paperwork as well as present the key issues as they relate to each individual’s interests. Contact our offices at 630-920-8855 to schedule your free consultation today.


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