Should You Tell the Kids Why You are Divorcing?

 Posted on November 06, 2013 in Family Law

There are always going to be plenty of questions about how to do divorce the right way. Divorce is a painful and life changing event in the lives of everyone that is involved. However, there has been some debate as to whether the kids should know about the reasons that their parents are divorcing. Experts for the Huffington Post state that the less is more option is always the best.

While the effects of divorce do weigh heavily on children, the divorce itself is a very grown up issue. No matter how well adjusted or mature the child seems to be, there is no need for him or her to be told the reason that you are getting divorced. Chances are that while arguing the reason has come up, but you have to be considerate.

The only thing that the child should know is that his mom and dad are both still going to be involved in his life. He needs to know that he will continue to be kept safe and that he will still be provided for. The only thing that should really change when it comes to the child is that both parents are no longer in the household.

So what happens if the child asks you why you are getting divorced? You and your spouse need to get together and come up with an answer that you will both tell the child if that question is asked. Responses such as, "ask your father what he did," or, "ask your mom how she caused it," will be doing a great disservice to an already confused and hurt child. Try something like telling them that you don’t get along anymore or something along those lines.

Grown up matters should remain between adults. If you have questions about filing for divorce and all of the issues that come with it contact an Illinois divorce attorney today.