Keep Your Divorce From Getting Bitter

 Posted on June 22, 2013 in Family Law

Divorce isn’t easy. It’s rarely kind, and more often than not emotions of hurt, disappointment, and anger surface in an ugly way. The idea that you could keep your divorce amiable by attempting to stifle these emotions may be too simplistic, but, according to the Huffington Post, there are some easy things you can do to keep your divorce from heading deep into the abyss of irreconcilability. These are especially important tips if you’re divorcing from a partner with whom you have children—it may sound cliché, but allowing your children to keep a healthy relationship with your ex is crucial to their development, as well as your sanity. Specifically in situations where you have full custody, the better the relationship between your kids and your ex, the more apt you are to get some time for yourself every once in a while. 

The first piece of advice that the Huffington Post gives to keep your divorce amiable is to resist complaining about your ex. “How can you possibly move forward in a productive and positive manner if you are living in the past? If you think your friends want to hear your incessant complaints about the ex, you are sorely mistaken,” reports the Huffington Post. Instead of complaining, the article suggests, try doing 20 squats (or push-ups or sit-ups) every time you feel the urge to complain.

Also try to avoid keeping score, or keeping “tabs on everything,” suggests the Huffington Post. According to the article, “life isn’t about keeping score, it’s about kindness and love to one another.” Try to keep your attitude up even if you’re not feeling happy and lucky deep down—the more you practice positivity in every small situation, the more positive of a person you’ll be.

If you’re ready to take the step into divorce and are interested in exploring your options, don’t go through it alone. Contact a dedicated Chicago-area divorce attorney today.

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