Making Divorce Your New Year's Resolution

 Posted on December 30, 2018 in Family Law

Are you considering getting a divorce but hesitating to go through with it? You can motivate yourself by making a New Year’s resolution. If you are unsure whether to divorce, you can resolve to come up with an answer. If you know you need a divorce, you can resolve to explore divorce resources and take the big step of telling your spouse about your decision. Following through on your resolution could help you find new optimism for the coming year.

Questioning Divorce

You should be confident in your decision to divorce because people rarely go back once they have started the process. It may help you to make a list of positives and negatives of getting a divorce. When creating the list, you can ask yourself:

• How often am I unhappy in my relationship with my spouse?;
• Would I be able to improve our relationship by communicating more?;
• Does the idea of leaving my spouse make me feel more scared or relieved?;
• Am I staying married because I am concerned about being able to support myself?; and
• Am I staying married because I am afraid of how it would affect our children?

You may end up with more in the negative column than the positive column, but that does not mean you should not divorce. Your happiness and emotional health are important, and the divorce process has solutions to many of your negatives.

Preparing for Divorce

Even after you have decided to divorce, it is understandable for you to be nervous about acting on it. Starting a divorce will immediately change the lives of yourself and your family. There are three issues you should try to settle before you start:

1. Telling Your Spouse: When you have your initial divorce conversation with your spouse, you should pick a private place and a time that is least likely to inconvenience him or her. You should be sensitive bringing up the subject in case your spouse is surprised by your decision.
2. Immediate Financial Plans: Your bank account and other marital assets may be frozen during your divorce. You should prepare so that you have enough available money to pay for your living expenses until you can regain access to those assets.
3. Immediate Parenting Schedule: You will not have your long-term parenting plan at the beginning of your divorce, but you need to figure out how you will continue your parental responsibilities.

Contact a Kane County Divorce Lawyer

You should choose an attorney before you start the divorce process. A Geneva, Illinois, divorce attorney at Geneva Family Lawyers can help you plan for the immediate aftermath of your decision to divorce. Schedule a free consultation by calling 331-588-6611.

Source:

https://www.popsugar.com/moms/New-Year-Resolutions-Wanting-Divorce-39492685