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Often when there is a hint that a marriage may be heading toward divorce, one or both spouses may suggest several sessions with a marriage counselor. For better or worse, working with a marriage counselor may be advantageous but some experts hold a different position as to the benefits of this type of counseling and how it affects the marriage overall.
Studies on the benefits of marriage counseling, dating as far back as 1987 with numerous studies conducted in decades thereafter, suggested that although couples retained most of what they learned through counseling only experienced improvements in the marriage for up to one year and with multiple relapses, ultimately leading to divorce.
To delve further into the question of if marriage counseling can save or hinder a marriage, licensed marriage and family therapist Marianne Clyde of the Marianne Clyde Center for holistic psychotherapy expressed her views. Clyde’s answer to the question of the benefits of marriage counseling is simple, it all depends.
Through years of counseling married couples, Clyde believes that if each spouse is open to working on the marriage, is coachable and willing to own their share of responsibility, then marriage counseling may prove a positive experience.
Following are excerpts of Clyde’s professional formula for increasing the success rate of marriage counseling.
Define Specific Goals
Define Specific Needs
Define Communication Standards
Define Troubling Behaviors
Define the Relationship
Define a New Perspective
So does marriage counseling save marriages? Clyde concludes that if each partner clearly communicates their wants and needs as well as being able to accept third party observations and suggestions, couples may be able to move past their differences to rekindle their compassion for one another.
If you and your spouse recently tried marriage counseling but were unable to reach a new perspective on the marriage, the experienced Hinsdale divorce attorneys of Martoccio & Martoccio can help. Contact us at 630-920-8855 to schedule your free consultation today.