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Everyone knows that being a parent is one of life’s most difficult jobs, and it does not get any easier once children enter the teenage years. It is easy to assume that because your children have established some independence, that divorce and moving back and forth between homes is going to be easier. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. Teenagers still need guidance in their homes and the knowledge that they have a supportive and loving home, even when they are moving between two different places. Following the below tips can help parents and teenagers manage these difficult times.
Children will have many concerns after divorce, even when they have reached their teenage years. Teenagers in particular though, are known for shutting down and not voicing these concerns to their parents. If your teenagers are coming to you with their worries, it is important to make those concerns a priority. Allow them to share their feelings, and answer any questions they may ask as honestly as you can.
Parents often think that teenagers will handle divorce much better than younger children, but this is not always true. It is a huge change for teenagers to move back and forth between their parents’ homes for child custody and visitation reasons, so give them time to adjust. Do not pressure them to talk about it, and do not feel bad if they rely more on their friends as a support system than you. Social circles are incredibly important for teenagers, so let them talk out their feelings with whoever they feel is best at the time.
Divorce is a major change for everyone involved and again, it is not easier for your children just because they are teenagers. To keep their stress to a minimum, it is always best to avoid any other major changes. You may have had to move out of the marital home but if possible, try to keep them in the same school and live in the same neighborhood so they remain close to friends they have made in the neighborhood.
It is no secret that today, teenagers tend to be tech wizards. Technology can help the entire family stay on track with time-sharing schedules and can help teenagers know what to expect and feel as though they are prepared for what comes next. These benefits are only possible though if you know a little bit about technology yourself. Research apps that will provide calendars to share and other features that will make the transition easier for everyone involved.
Child custody issues do not end when kids are young and there is a chance that you will need a new child custody order or a modification to an existing one after your children become teenagers. For all of this, you will need the help of a skilled Hinsdale family lawyer that can present arguments to the court and file petitions when necessary. At the Law Office of Martoccio & Martoccio, our skilled attorneys can help you through any child custody issue you are facing, and give you the best chance of a positive outcome. Call us today at 630-920-8855 or contact us online to schedule a free consultation to learn how we can help.