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Illinois family lawyerDivorce can be difficult for children. Living in two households, watching parents date and remarry, and getting introduced to step-siblings and half-siblings are several of the many changes divorce can bring to your children’s lives.

Fortunately, there are ways you can help your children live a high quality of life despite any changes your divorce may bring. You can start by making an effort to avoid the following 4 common parenting mistakes during divorce:

1. Forcing Your Children to Be Messengers

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Illinois divorce lawyerThe end of a relationship is difficult for everyone involved, but when parents end their marriage in divorce, children are often the ones who have the hardest time. Divorce will bring a great deal of upheaval to their lives as they adjust to new schedules, split their lives between two households, and try to understand changing relationships between family members.

As you work to provide the best possible environment for your children following your divorce, you will want to be sure you are considering their needs and providing them with love and support. Here are some valuable tips for helping your children get through this difficult time:

  • Be honest - Children are sure to have a lot of questions about why you and your spouse divorced, and you should try to answer their questions honestly while keeping your answers age-appropriate. Encourage them to discuss their feelings about the divorce with you and let them know that it is okay to feel sad or angry.
  • Offer reassurance - Children often worry that they may have been the cause of the divorce, so it is important to reassure them that your divorce was not their fault in any way while helping them understand that you will always love them and be there for them.
  • Provide consistency - It is important for children to have a regular routine in their daily lives. Reliably following your parenting time schedule and sticking to a consistent plan for bed times and mealtimes will give them the stability they need.
  • Provide them with quality time - Make the most of the time you spend with your children and be involved in their lives. Encourage them to share their interests with you and offer them love and support.
  • Cooperate with your ex-spouse - You and your former partner share the goal of raising your children in a loving, positive environment, so it is best to try to be flexible and accommodating to each other’s needs. If your work schedule or your children’s schedules for school and activities change, work together with the other parent to modify pickup and drop-off times as needed.

Never involve children in conflicts - You are likely to have disagreements with your ex-spouse, but you should do your best to keep your kids from being caught in the middle. Do not send messages to your ex-spouse through your children, and avoid disparaging your ex-spouse in your kids’ presence.

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Illinois child custody lawsParental alienation is a term used to describe intense hatred of one parent by a child that is caused by behavior by the other parent. Parental alienation can be incredibly effective over time, and if you suspect such behavior is taking place you should seek legal counsel and redress in family law court. If this type of behavior is not stopped, your relationship with your child or children may suffer irreparable harm. Be on the lookout for children who are angry at one parent, but who have no reason grounded in fact for their thoughts and feelings.

Examples of Parental Alienation

The following types of behaviors can lead to parental alienation:

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Illinois divorce lawyer, Illinois family law attorneyStudies prove that 50 percent of all American children will experience the divorce of their parents before reaching 18 years of age. It is also estimated that these children will also witness the breakdown of a parent’s second marriage.

Furthermore, the emotional and physical repercussions can be discouraging. On a psychological basis, studies demonstrate that children of divorce may:

  • Exhibit poor school performance,
  • Require the assistance of a psychologist, and
  • Experience a higher rate of emotional or psychological issues.

With regard to physical implications, children of divorce may experience an increase in health-related problems such as a higher propensity to injuries, asthma, and headaches. Studies also reveal that children in single-parent, troubled households are subject to higher rates of physical harm or even death.

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Illinois divorce attorney, Illinois family law attorneyTo a child, divorce in any family situation can be upsetting and perhaps even life altering, but how do parents tell the family that grandparents are going their separate ways? 

The term for American mature couples opting to call it quits is referred to gray divorce, while in the United Kingdom, silver separation is the trending terminology. No matter the terminology, divorce is a hard subject to broach not only for the grandchildren but for the adult children of the couple as well.

If you have recently learned that your parents are divorcing and you would like additional information and resources to approach the situation, the following may be of assistance.

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