These days, many people rush to Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and many other social media profiles to tell their friends and followers about what is happening in their life. If you are going through a divorce though, you may want to think twice before hitting “post.” Using social media, especially if you use it in the wrong way, could seriously hurt you in your divorce and can have a very real effect on what kind of settlement you receive. Below are some things you should know about social media and how to use it, or not use it, when going through a divorce.

Do Not Post About Your Divorce

One of the worst things you can do during your divorce is post about it on social media. If you use social media to vent about your ex or talk about your divorce, it is likely going to be held against you in the future. There is a good chance that you need to talk to someone about what you are going through. However, it is a much better idea to speak to a friend privately about it, or even speak to a therapist. These are confidential conversations that will not be used against you later.

The best advice is to refrain from posting to social media altogether during your divorce. If you cannot do that though, make sure anything you post has nothing to do with your marital relationship, property division, child custody issues, or anything else pertaining to your divorce.

Divorce can be expensive. What many people do not know is that there is a way to cut those costs so that in the end, you are not left with nothing. While a divorce will still likely cost you something, there are ways that you can mitigate the expenses so your divorce does not cost you absolutely everything in the end. If you can follow the below tips, you will find that your divorce is much cheaper than most.

Avoid Litigation

When many people think about divorce, they envision a bitter and messy courtroom battle. Although many divorces go this route, that does not mean that yours has to. The most expensive way to divorce is to go through litigation. If you can find an alternative, your divorce will be much easier on your wallet.

Try Mediation

Mediation is one of the best ways to avoid litigation. During mediation, you and your spouse will meet with a mediator. Mediators are neutral third parties that do not give legal advice but do try to get you and the other side to come to an agreement that is fairly mutual. You can still work with an attorney to ensure your rights are being protected. Your divorce will just end up costing less and take less time in the end.

You may understand the benefits of a prenuptial agreement. You may have even decided that you would really one before the wedding day. However, you have no idea how to ask your soon-to-be spouse. You do not want them to think that you’re already planning for a divorce, or that you do not trust them. So, how can you ask them for one and still continue preparing for the big day? By following the four tips below.

Do Not Demand It

Sometimes it is all in the way that you ask for something that makes a big difference. Do not demand that your fiancé signs an agreement. Statements such as, “You will have to sign a prenuptial agreement,” or “I do not think we can get married if you do not sign a prenuptial agreement,” come across as very demanding. Your fiancé will likely become defensive, which could lead to a fight you were hoping to avoid when bringing up the subject. Rather, ask your partner to have a conversation with you about a prenup and the benefits it could bring to both of you.

Be Honest

Many people have some kind of fear about the future when they are about to get married, even when they know it is the right decision. Likewise, many people do not want to convey these fears to their partner because they do not want their partner to think they are having doubts. It is always best to be honest about your feelings, any fears you have, and to let your fiancé know that you have certain assets you would like to protect. Dishonesty will only add to the tension of the conversation.

Child support in Illinois is legally binding. When a judge orders one parent to pay it as a result of divorce, they must do so. That does not mean, however, that you are stuck with a high payment that you might not always be able to afford. The law in Illinois recognizes that situations change and as such, either parent can petition the court to have their child support payments modified. The steps for doing so are outlined below.

Find a Good Family Lawyer

It is not a requirement that you have legal representation to modify child support payments. If you represent yourself, you will not have anyone to guide you through the legal system. The staff in the courtroom also cannot give legal advice, or tell you of the chances of a successful outcome. It is in your best interest to speak to an attorney any time you have to go to court.

Complete All Forms and File with the Court

There are many forms you will need to complete. These include:

Many people get married without creating a prenuptial agreement. Then, maybe a few years or even a few days after the wedding, they determine that they need a bit of protection in case they get divorced. Maybe they have started a business that is hugely successful. Or, maybe they just did not realize how much they needed a prenuptial agreement before the big day. Whatever the reason, now the couple understands that they need to protect their assets. So, they start thinking about drafting a postnuptial agreement.

When this is the case, the couple may decide to simply draft an agreement on their own and sign it. That is perfectly legal and, if done right, enforceable. However, doing it right is key. An Illinois family lawyer can help with this and ensure that in the event that the worst happens, everyone is protected. Below are just two reasons you should not draft a postnuptial agreement without first speaking to an attorney.

An Attorney Will Ensure You Are Protected

Postnuptial agreements are legal documents that, when done right, can help protect both spouses. However, when they are not done right, postnuptial agreements also pose risks for both spouses. Postnuptial agreements are legally binding documents and so, neither spouse can remove themselves from the terms later on simply because they do not like them, or because they did not read or fully understand what the contract said.