Four Divorce Mistakes You May Later Regret
It is understandable and likely unavoidable to feel some regret about the end of your marriage after your divorce. However, feeling regret about how your divorce turned out is a different matter. Mistakes during a divorce are largely avoidable with the proper mindset and strategy. Unfortunately, your emotions can cloud your judgment during your divorce. Feelings of anger, resentment, and dread can lead divorcees towards making poor decisions with financial and emotional consequences. Here are four mistakes that people often regret making after their divorces:
- Following Legal Advice from Non-Professionals: A divorce attorney is the best source for helping you make legal decisions during your divorce. Some people will instead turn to friends or try to conduct their own research. A friend who has already divorced can provide helpful advice on how to emotionally cope with the experience. However, he or she is not a reliable source for legal guidance. Only a divorce attorney will know how to best handle the specifics of your divorce, as well as relevant updates in divorce law.
- Involving Children in Fights: The allocation of parental responsibilities is one of the most heavily debated issues during a divorce. However, the children themselves should remain separate from the arguments involving them. Divorcing parents are tempted to bad-mouth each other in front of their child or even use the child as a messenger for their arguments. This may add to the child’s already traumatic experience because the child may have a more difficult time coping with the negative emotions between his or her parents.
- Picking Fights with Your Spouse: There is a difference between advocating for yourself and initiating conflict during your divorce agreement negotiations. Some divorcees fight over issues because they are angry at their spouse, not because they feel strongly about the issue. Starting unnecessary fights hurts both spouses by drawing out the negotiations. It also makes it more difficult to settle on the issues that are truly important to both parties.
- Overlooking Financial Subtleties: On the flip side of a combative spouse is one who is too quick to agree on issues. A spouse may want a speedy resolution because he or she is uncomfortable with the negotiations. However, you need time to carefully examine the financial consequences of your decisions. Some marital properties are more valuable than they appear. Others come with taxes and maintenance costs that may make them less desirable. Once a court has approved your divorce agreement, it is difficult to go back and correct these mistakes.
Divorce Without Regrets
You may not look back at your divorce as a positive time in your life, but you can feel content that you made the correct decisions during the process. A Kane County divorce attorney at the Law Office of Martoccio & Martoccio can provide you with sound guidance during your divorce. To schedule a free consultation, call 331-588-6611.