Four Things No One Tells You About Post-Divorce Life

IL divorce lawyerOther than losing a loved one, getting divorced is likely the most stressful event that will happen to a person in their life. This is because divorce changes nearly everything in your life. You will likely spend less time with your children, face tax implications, and may have to move out of your home, or even out of your city or state. Although divorce is a legal process, it is also an extremely emotional one. Unfortunately, that emotional process does not end once the divorce is finalized. Many people expect that they will be happier after divorce, and are surprised when they realize that is not necessarily the case. Below are four of the biggest aspects people do not realize about life after divorce.

You Will Feel the Loss

Even if you initiated the divorce, you will likely still feel a loss. You will no longer share every aspect of your daily life with your spouse and no matter how broken the relationship was at the end, this is still an adjustment. You may also lose certain relationships, such as the family members and friends of your now former spouse. This loss is very difficult for many people to cope with, and one that many people do not consider when they are going through divorce proceedings.

The Surprising Reactions of Others

Anyone that gets divorced expects their family members and closest friends to be there afterward. Sadly, that is not always the case. Sometimes family members may treat you differently, even if it is something as simple as not inviting you to a family dinner. They may think it will be more difficult for you to see other happy couples and they simply do not want to put you through that. Or, they may not think that you feel up to going anywhere or seeing anyone. However, it will not feel as though they are looking out for your best interests and these actions can cause resentment to build in the family. On the other hand, you may also find that people you were not particularly close to are the ones that are there for you and will help you get through this difficult time.

Healing Does Not Happen Right Away

People are often surprised to find that it takes months or even years before they fully make an emotional recovery from the divorce. This is particularly true if a child custody order keeps you from seeing your children as much as you did before. It is important to understand that this is not only okay, but it also is perfectly normal and does not mean that the divorce was a mistake.

The Process is Easier When Working With an Illinois Divorce Lawyer

Many people think that they do not need to work with a divorce lawyer, particularly when their spouse seems willing to work together to decide on the terms of the divorce. However, divorces that start off amicably can quickly turn bitter and so it is always better to work with a skilled Hinsdale divorce lawyer from the very beginning. An attorney will help ensure your rights are protected, negotiate with the other side, and secure the fair settlement you deserve. If you are considering divorce, call us at 630-920-8855 or contact us online to arrange a free consultation with one of our skilled attorneys.




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