How to Talk to Children about Divorce

 Posted on August 19, 2013 in Family Law

Divorce occurs in one out of two families, according to the American Academy of Child & Adolescents Psychiatry. When children are involved, parents may find it challenging to address the subject of divorce. Here are a few tips on how to talk to children about divorce. Sometimes it is knowing what not to say that will make the difference.

It is natural for parents to be concerned about how their divorce will affect their children. While getting a divorce may be a relief for parents, it will present uncertainty for children. Knowing what to say or what not to say to your children can help them fair better throughout the divorce process.

Self-Blame

Children often take the blame for the divorce and the responsibility of getting their parents back together. Reassure your children that the divorce is not their fault. Talking to your children together with your spouse may help them see that the decision to divorce came from mommy and daddy.

Love Reinforcement

Sitting down as a couple to talk to your children is a powerful play that will affect your children in a favorable way. Reinforce that divorce in no way means they are loved less and that you will continue to be there for them as parents.

No Bashing

It can be easy during this stressful time to bash the other spouse in front of the children. This creates conflict in children, because although you may be angry at your spouse, your children may feel guilty for not feeling the same way.

Talking to children about divorce is never easy, but when handled the right way, this discussion can make going through a divorce less stressful for the family. If you are an Illinois resident contemplating divorce, contact a family law attorney. The lawyers at Martoccio &Maroccio are compassionate and will help you determine the best course of action for your family.