Letting Go of Your Divorce Attachments

 Posted on September 06, 2018 in Family Law

People hold onto things that they are familiar with, even if they know it is unhealthy for them. Divorce is a big step towards changing this behavior because you are letting go of your marriage. However, you may be keeping other things – both physical and emotional – that remind you of your marriage and are still causing you pain. The divorce process can help you let go of these marital attachments, though some memories from your marriage are harder to dispel.

Physical Reminders

You own items that you will always emotionally connect to your previous marriage. You may benefit from riding yourself of the reminders, such as:

• Your wedding ring;
• Your wedding attire and gifts;
• Gifts you received from your spouse during your marriage;
• Mementos from experiences during your marriage; and
• Your marital home.

You should be practical before deciding to get rid of some of these properties. You may need your marital home if your children are living with you after your divorce. There are some marital properties that neither one of you will want to keep after your divorce, because of practical purposes or the memories they hold. When negotiating the division of property, you can sell the unwanted items and divide the proceeds as part of your larger agreement.

Emotional Remnants

Negative emotions such as anger and sadness can linger after your divorce. This emotional baggage keeps you tied to your divorce and prevents you from finding new happiness in your life. You will never forget your previous marriage and the mistakes that led to your divorce. Instead, your goal is to let go of the strong emotions associated with your divorce. Ways to accomplish this may include:

• Allowing yourself to mourn the loss of your marriage;
• Talking to a divorce therapist or support group;
• Exploring new interests and activities; and
• Changing the routine that you established during your marriage.

When you have let go of your negative emotions, you should no longer be upset when you think about your former spouse and marriage. You may still have regrets, but that can be a healthy emotion in small doses.

Let It Go

A successful divorce process lays the groundwork for letting go of reminders of your marriage. Your divorce agreement should leave you confident that you have reached the best outcome. A Kane County divorce attorney at Geneva Family Lawyers can help you obtain a divorce settlement that satisfies your needs. To schedule a free consultation, call 331-588-6611.

Source:

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/tiffany-beverlin/7-things-to-let-go-of-after-divorce_b_12317492.html