Thinking About Dating After Divorce? Follow These Guidelines

IL divorce lawyerGoing through a divorce is extremely difficult and emotionally taxing. Some people may need time to mourn the relationship, and these individuals may also take some time to get back on their feet. Others, though, may want to jump right back into life and resume certain activities, such as dating. When that is the case, how do you know if you are ready, or how to do it without hurting your children, the people you date, or yourself? If you are considering dating after divorce, the guidelines below can help you determine if you are ready.

Ask Yourself Some Hard Questions

Although many people think of the fun aspects of dating, such as getting dressed up and going out to fancy restaurants, it is important to remember that there are a lot of difficult components of it, as well. Before putting yourself through that unnecessarily, it is important to ask yourself some tough questions. Did you learn the lessons you needed to during your marriage and divorce? Are you ready to move on from your marriage? Do you feel you have obtained the closure you needed after divorce? Asking yourself these questions, and being honest about the answers, will help you determine if you are ready to date after divorce.

Pay Attention to How You Feel

Sometimes, people just are not certain if they are ready to date after divorce until they actually do it. So, if you are unsure but think you may be ready to get back into the dating game, try it and see. If you are not ready to date yet, you will know fairly soon into the date. Again, it is important to be honest with yourself. Do not shrug off your feelings by telling yourself that you are just nervous, or that you are only having those feelings because it has been a while since you have dated. If you are not ready, those feelings will not go away and you are not doing yourself any favors by trying to push through them.

Wait to Introduce Anyone to the Children

You may be ready to jump back into a very serious relationship, or you may want to date casually before getting into anything too serious. Whatever the case, make sure that you do not regularly introduce your children to your new dates. Instead, wait until a relationship becomes very serious and you think the person may be a part of your life for some time. This means that if you have child custody or a visitation agreement, you should not date when the children are staying with you. Even if they say they are okay with it, it may actually make them feel unimportant and undervalued.

Going Through a Divorce? Our Illinois Family Lawyers Provide Sound Advice

If you are still going through divorce but do not have representation, or you have not yet filed, it is imperative that you speak to one of our skilled Hinsdale divorce lawyers at the Law Office of Martoccio & Martoccio as soon as possible. We can provide the sound advice you need, guide you through the entire process, and give you the best chance of securing the fair settlement you deserve. Call us today at 630-920-8855 or contact us online to schedule a free initial consultation with one of our attorneys.



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