Despite reaching a parenting agreement during their divorce or separation, it is common for co-parents to disagree with each other about parenting decisions afterward. Parents in a high-conflict relationship seem particularly adept at finding topics to argue about. You may wonder how effective your parenting agreement is if you continue to disagree on your parenting schedule and how to raise your children. Co-parents who anticipate continued conflict should create an agreement that is clear in stating how parental responsibilities will be allocated and when it will allow deviations.
Detailed Agreement
Co-parenting conflicts can arise when the language in a parenting agreement is ambiguous. Your co-parent may have a different interpretation of a vague section in the agreement. Even if that interpretation was not your intention when creating the agreement, your co-parent can take advantage of the ambiguity to use it as a defense for his or her actions. A high-conflict parenting agreement can avoid differing interpretations by being detailed, such as stating:
Limiting Contact
Communication is necessary when co-parenting children, but co-parents in a high-conflict relationship know that prolonged interaction between them can end in an argument. A parenting agreement can lay out when and how the parents will contact each other:
Changes to the Agreement
There are times when it is most practical for co-parents to deviate from the parenting agreement, whether it is a temporary change or a permanent one. Flexibility is difficult in a high-conflict relationship because the parents need to cooperate with each other. The agreement can create a structured process for discussing changes, including:
Crafting a Parenting Agreement
A parenting agreement can settle disputes between co-parents in advance, but there are also times when the agreement must be changed. A Kane County family law attorney at Geneva Family Lawyers can help you create a parenting agreement and modify it. To schedule a free consultation, call 331-588-6611.
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https://www.custodyxchange.com/showcase/a-parenting-plan-template-for-parents-in-high-conflict/